Posts tagged ‘Kimberly brimhall photography’

March 2, 2011

Good for her vs. Why not me?

I can’t even accurately tally how many times I’ve heard women friends of mine speak of how hard it is to find good female friends.

The words caddy, jealous and competitive come to mind. I try and think of a time in my own life when women did not feel the need to compete and I can’t find it.

Grade school was the worst for me…

The mean girls.
Being bullied because my family was poor.
Not understanding why I couldn’t be friends with everyone just because I lived in a trailor park.

I became good at adapting and adjusting. Eventually I got to the point where social status and money did not matter.

Or.so.I.thought.

Why is it impossible for us as women to support each other.
It shouldn’t be.

Why is it so hard for us to be happy for another woman when things turn out well for her
It shouldn’t be.

Why do we think “why not me?” instead of “good for her”?

Why can’t we help one another be the best we can be?
We can be.

Being women who inspire and support means more than just sharing quotes that are deep and written by someone else, more than just the half-hearted compliments we pay each other when we get news our friends dreams are coming true, more than the occasional “cute shoes, pretty profile pic and the ever so flat “oh cool.”

These are things we often times feel we must say, to be nice. Well nice isn’t always genuine.

I think it’s time as women we reach into that place where we love to tuck our insecurities away and give it a stir.

I think it’s time we look in the mirror, not to straighten our mascara, not to make sure we are the best dressed girl at the ball….but to see what part about ourselves we love and face the fears that house our insecurities. Grab them and hold onto them until we are able to naturally overcome them.

Overcome them when your best friend tells you she just got news of being featured in a magazine and you first instinct is jealousy.

Rather than allowing the usual response be one of a half-A attempt to say something nice and retreat back into the fear box, picture how happy you’d be in her shoes and take that positive energy to inspire yourself to do more.

Overcome them when you see others being more successful at something you are still struggling to do.

Use their example to excite you for the future; to give you hope that if dreams can come true for others, they can for you as well.

Overcome that age old feminine nature that tells us to judge other women because they are different than us.

Difference is necessary for inspiration, for progression, for us to challenge ourselves.

Overcome the mean girl in us who wants to gossip about things we truly do not understand.

It always comes back around and we all know what it’s like to be on the other side.

Overcome the insane idea that we must be the best at everything.

It’s not logical. It’s not healthy. It’s not possible.

As women, we should not only be supporting each other, but we should be giving a little grace as well. I want my daughter to understand the importance of lending a hand to her girlfriends, the importance of not judging things from the outside, the importance of surrounding herself with girls that love her.

I am inspired daily by the struggles and triumphs of the women around me. I could be jealous (and at times I am) of things they do and have happen to them. I could not care if they were successful. I could make assumptions about them when I have no clue what they are going through. I could, and I have, but I want to be different.

I want to do my best to help and share and accept.

My daughter will not be a good person just because I tell her to be. She will not be a hard worker if she believes beauty is the only way to get something. She will not trust anyone, if those close to her are not happy for her.

She will however be the product of what surrounds her.

“We” will be the products of what surrounds us.

I say we all work on what surrounds us;)

I would love to hear your thoughts… so leave me a comment or send me an email!

KS
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February 17, 2011

Trying to not bring my work home…as much.

 

So in this post I declared my New Years resolutions… or lack thereof. Being at the age of “almost 30″means I know myself pretty well and I just don’t follow through with empty promises of changing myself over the course of a year. I have always believed my life experiences will determine how I evolve and what I do or do not do when it comes to being a different person.

I do however believe in trying to better myself through goals. One of my goals for this year was to spend more time “disconnected”. Because I own two companies (both of which require a lot of online interaction) I am on my phone way too much and I find it hard to detach at times. Last year I decided to take times where I did not look at my emails and phone for an hour at a time during the day. Sometimes I am very good at it, other times, it’s work. But every time I do, I get a peace and a mini recharge.

Wednesday was an example of me trying to disconnect. I told Jonathan that when I got home in the afternoon, I wanted to ride our bikes to the park and read. Just me, him, a blanket, and a few random bugs mulling around.

In two years of having my bike, I had ridden it maybe 8 times.

Shameful. But I have made it a goal to ride more, read more and “disconnect” even more. A scary statement coming from someone who works in Social Media (a job that screams “stay connected”, but I believe it will make me a better person… better at retaining information on social trends, photo trends and perfecting my own craft of photography.

This is me trying.

1. Trying to listen to my husband without looking at my phone… so that I learn more about who he is, who he wants to be, who he wants me to be. Actually “hearing” him.

2. Trying to embrace the silence so I can hear myself. To hear the voice within more clearly so that I may know more about who I am, who I want to be, who I do not want to be.

3. Trying to learn how to lean on others a little more; not try taking on the world alone so much. Sharing my fears, my hopes and my past to connect with others.

4. Trying to let more light than darkness in. It can be so easy to embrace the negativity that surrounds me sometimes… my own judgements, insecurities, my own mistakes; I have to hold onto the positives.

5. Trying not to take EVERYTHING so serious; have fun even if there’s still work to do. To make life easier and less stressful to walk through…for myself and the ones I love.

We had a great time at the park, and although it was brief, it made me want to do it more. I believe I will too, because I don’t feel like I “have” to.

All of these photos were taken with Jonathan’s phone…seriously love that. And I am still loving using the Lo-Fi app (see my post on it HERE).

December 29, 2010

In rememberance of two-oh-one-oh

2010 was:

  1. new
  2. lonely
  3. colorful
  4. scary
  5. enlightening
  6. photographic
  7. humbling
  8. humorous
  9. exhausting
  10. inspiring

and full of:

  1. hipstamatics
  2. mistakes and triumphs
  3. endings and beginnings
  4. love
  5. learning
  6. facebook
  7. las palapas
  8. tears
  9. kim and jen
  10. exclamation marks

This awesome app from Pummelvision.com takes all of your facebook photos and creates a video to emulate your life flashing before your eyes. I think it’s perfect for remembering how life has been the last few years.

My favorite photo of 2010 that I took:

The lovely Katherine Pierce. I will share Kate’s story soon with more photos from this shoot. My favorite one so far.

I am currently thinking about what I want my 2011 resolutions to be. I have a feeling some big changes are coming… as always, but it’s what I do… constantly reassess and reevaluate. It keeps things interesting.

-Kimberly

December 27, 2010

Christmas Unwrapped

Christmas 2010:

Favorite gift received: Studio equipment and Victorian Lace cuffs (there will be a photoshoot centered around them)

Favorite gift given: A cover of the song “Paperweight” which our wedding video is going to be set to.

When I asked my close friend Mack (who is a bad A record producer, grammy nominated) if he could give me advice on recording a song of me singing for Jonathan, I just assumed it would be minimal, but he did something much bigger. He offered to help me record it at his studios. So after a lot of moments where I thought we couldn’t pull it off, we did. He is the most amazing friend ever, he is also who walked me down the aisle at my wedding. I was so nervous to do ANYTHING musically after it had been 10 yrs since I had been in a recording studio. Taking that step to overcome the fear of doing it again taught me a lot and I am happy we did it. After nights of not sleeping and with the help of my friends Kacee Boswell and Wes Harlee… we made something beautiful. Jonathan actually cried when I played it for him.

Here is our version.

PAPERWEIGHT COVER

It may have seemed small compared to Mack’s regular recordings and Kacee and Wes’s stuff, but it was special to us.

Do you ever worry about something so much that it becomes something it isn’t? Well, this is what I did this Christmas. Being that it was the first Christmas since the divorce that the kids went to their dad’s house, I was so nervous that the day after (when they came to our house) would seem less special. That the excitement would be gone and they would just be “kinda” into it.

I was wrong…(take note, because I don’t say that often)

It was just as special, just as exciting, just as chaotic/dramatic/lovely/happy as it has always been. Shame on me for thinking that a date defines how special something can be. Shame on me for whining about the fact that I wouldn’t be the first to see their faces. Shame on me for not focusing on what I have been preaching all along… the togetherness of family.

Jonathan’s mother and Aunt Marilyn came down from Tyler and it was nice to have them a part of everything. The kids loved everything they got and Madi told me later that she would give baby Jesus a present if she could. I love that the kids are always good at reminding us of Baby Jesus when Christmas comes around…makes me feel proud of what they remember.

Jade got the train set he asked for and Madi got a lot of purses… I thought at some point she would get tired of collecting them. I guess she is a typical girl after all.

Jade made Jonathan an ornament at this school. He was so proud to give it to him and so proud when Jonathan liked it. I love that they enjoy giving and not just receiving. They were also so happy and excited to get Jonathan a bike. For the last month he has been using mine (a blue vintage one that’s a  tad too small for him) when he goes out with them. Now he has his own…. The kids just kept saying “WE REALLY WANTED YOU TO GO BIKE RIDING WITH US!” over and over. He loved it.

It’s amazing what 5 dollars can do for a kid. Jade got a Harry Potter wand and immediately thought he could start casting spells. I’ve watched him for the better part of a year practice his “wand” skills while watching Harry Potter and now he has one so it’s legit. ha His face was so serious.

This was also Jonathan’s first time to bake. I loveeee baking. I find it so enjoyable and exciting to see how things come out and how they taste (especially how they taste). Watching him read the ingredients and directions was cute.

White Chocolate Red Velvet… is was soooo good and even more special because we were able to do it togther:)

I hope everyone had a lovely Christmas and I can’t wait to start a new year with new experiences… this is my last video diary of this year.

December 25, 2010

Merry Merry…Happy

Tis the season… to make crazy christmas cards and eat wayyy too much and give wayyy too much (hopefully)… and really take note (and photos) of all the lovely things in my life. This was our family christmas card for this year. The original idea has been done a million times I am sure, but the idea for this card was Jade’s. As a mom, there is no way I would ever tell him that I didn’t want to do it because someone else had done it… so we did it and we love it:)

Christmas has always meant something different from year to year. When I was younger, it was about presents… when I was a teen… still about presents and being able to miss school. Now that I am a mother, it is about teaching Jade and Lulu the meaning of Christmas, reflecting on what’s truly important in my life, and evaluating how my last year has gone.

This was the kid’s first Christmas away from me and I am still not sure how I am going to adjust to having them every other year, but I guess it is what it is.

I have so much to be grateful for this year. I found peace within myself, a wonderful friend to spend my life with and a new appreciation for the time spent with the people I love.

I’ve learned that sometimes I have to let things go and not force things to happen… when I do, things just happen anyway. I have to trust that sometimes what I want is not necessarily the best for me. I have learned the true definition of faith.

Faith in others.

Faith in Heavenly Father.

Faith in myself.

Without it, this year would have gone much differently.

I have made a ton of mistakes, fallen, had to start over and had to move on…

Faith allowed me to keep moving. I always keep moving.

This year, I have been blessed to be surrounded by amazing people.

Jonathan: He makes days amazing and creative and real. He’s gentle and deep. We lead a simple, casual life filled with photoshoots and homework and netflix and the occasional trip to taco bell. He is my best friend in every sense of the word. I have never met a person like Jonathan and I know I never will again. He makes me think.

Jade: He is my baby boy. He is light in darkness. His laugh makes my heart happy. He is so protective of me and respectful of his sister. He looks up to Jonathan and accepts him like he has always been around. He changed my whole perspective of life and all Christmases after he was born meant something new, better, amazing.

Lulu: She is the most precious little child. Her desire to love everyone and everything keeps me going, teaches me the true meaning of acceptance. Her love of music and art makes me proud and her love of her brother runs so deep and loyal. Last week she told Jonathan and I “Jade is my heart, my soul, my sunshine, my happiness.” There is nothing more important in life than that lesson.

Friends: People I see and speak to on a weekly basis. Some I even consider my family. In real life friends who support me in everything I do even if they don’t “get” it, ones who yank me back to reality when my feet start to leave the ground and push me up when I don’t believe as much in myself. Friends who accept that I am an ever-changing Kimberly and don’t judge what they don’t understand. The friends who have been with me for years know who I have been and love me and know who I want to be and love her too. The friends who have recently moved into my life and space, know me now, listen to my past, share theirs and encourage me to follow my dreams and do what makes me happy no matter what others think or say. I know how rare that is.

The voice within: The girl inside who is sometimes scared, sometimes a rebel, sometimes scattered and always determined. My desire to take care of my family has lead to so much growth this year. At the beginning of the year I was blessed with some much needed changes in my life and I haven’t taken for granted that they were life saving. I have learned humility, confidence and self-acceptance. I am learning to listen to my heart, feed my soul and help anyone who asks or seems like they need it.

Today I celebrate everyone who has made this last year the best one yet.


Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful.

~Norman Vincent Peale

I love decorating for Christmas. Now that I own two businesses, I don’t have a ton of time left for making things these days. This year I did though.

Jonathan and I had nothing in the sense of Christmas decorations… we were trying to stick to a budget and still do something we both loved and was special to us. We decided to make our Christmas decorations reflect our wedding and celebrate the start of our lives together. We handmade almost everything we used and bought the rest at the goodwill. We even facebooked what color tree we should get and although most comments said white, we went with purple:)

The photo ornaments, jars, peacocks and branches we all from our wedding.

The garland for the mantle was made up of the gray painted branches we used on our arbor for our wedding. It’s also no secret that I am a HUGE iPhone Hipstamatic fan and I take wayyyy too many photos with my camera. But after looking at all the photos I had taken over the last year, I decided it would be very special to display the photos that meant the most to us taken on my hipstamatic. Each crazy filtered photo marked some amazing event in our lives. I am thinking of keeping it all year because I love it so much.

Jonathan even got in on everything by wrapping my gifts in magazine paper from some of my favorite magazines. The one on the left is from my favorite Guess ad.

Our ornaments were all made from the leftover lids of our wedding jars. We just spray painted them, cut the photos to fit, glued them inside and nailed a hole for the hanger. It was such a lovely experience to have for our first Christmas together.

Today was my first Christmas with Jonathan’s family and I was so happy to have been a part of it. His parents are amazing and welcoming people and his lovely sister had us over for lunch today. What special people. His grandma Rose is one of my favorites and I am so lucky to have them as family.

As much as I would love to end this post on something deep and inspirational, I got nothing left. I will end by sharing my favorite stocking stuffer gifts I received from Jonathan today. This post has been much like our life… a little serious and a little funny.

The “run and tell that” button is from Antoine Dotson and the “Geeks need love too” represents Jonathan’s love for geeky girls.

Tomorrow we get to do it all again with Jade and Lulu and I can’t wait.

I truly hope you all have the best the holidays brings!

-Kimberly